Hmm, Pinteresting...

So I have come to the conclusion that most of the pins that are on Pinterest are just completely ridiculous.  Now don't get me wrong, I am like most of you.  I am right there, pinning away happily in the evening when the Admiral is watching something dumb on TV.  But even though I am pinning this stuff, I know in my head that it is either #1 completetly undoable, or #2 I will never do it because I don't have the time. More importantly, anyone who actually HAS the time to do this stuff, really needs to assert those efforts into becoming a more productive member of society. 

Now I don't mean the recipies, ( because man, some of those are ah-maz-ing), or the cleaning tips (though some of those can be quite questionable).  I am talking about the fashion.  The impossible photo shoots, and all of the things that make me feel like a complete loser mom.  If I did a quarter of the things that are on there for keeping up with milestones, or important events in my kids lives, I would never sleep, eat, or see my kids. 

Let me give you just a few examples of the things some of these trolls put on there that make me feel guilty or inadequate.  For example

This is a 'what to do with your sonogram'.  Do you know where my sonograms are?  In an enevelope in a box somewhere.  Am I ever going to frame them?  Probably not, because by the time I get around to it, my kids will be bigger and what kid wants to bring their friend over to play in their room with this collage hanging in it?  Creeeepy.

Then there is  this

First of all, I do not have a chalkboard.  And even if I did, I would not do this, because I am exhausted, and when the baby is awake, most likely it wants carried around all the time, or is eating, or throwing up on me.  Plus, what am I going to need all of this information for later?  His resume?  "Oh yes I see that Little Man was 9 pounds at one month old.  Well, I am sorry, the applicant that came in before you was 10 pounds at one month, and could already roll over.  You just aren't qualified enough.  Suzie please send in the next applicant, I hear this guy was saying 'Mama' at 3 months old!"
Plus I haven't even printed off any pictures of my youngest since his first birthday.  They are all still on the camera or the computer.  So who knows when or if it would ever make it to print anyway. I feel guilty.  Your royal highness has a whole scrapbook all about his first year.  The twins, well, we barely have any pictures of them until six months because I could barely think let alone grab a camera.  And poor Little man, Most of the pictures we have were taken by other people.

Next offender.
Don't get me started on these lunches.  What kind of Ritalin are these moms siphoning off of their kids?

I have four kids and two additional toddlers that I watch.  If I did this, first of all, my kids would still not eat it, and then throw it at each other, and then I would be pissed and resentful to them. But also  they would STARVE and miss the holiest of holies, NAP because it would take two hours to do this for all 6 of them!

Next thing that drives me crazy.  WHY upon WHY do all of the nurseries and bathrooms have chandeliers?  What parent puts a chandelier in their kids room?  Or in the BATHROOM? 

Yeah, the Admiral wouldn't hit his head on that at all.  SMH.....

And finally, the party ideas. More importantly, the children's party ideas.  These days I am happy just to manage to HAVE a party for my children.  They are expensive, and a pain in the butt, and are just getting out of control.  (don't get me started on goodie bags. Why in the name of frugal Ben Franklin do I need to give all of the guests a gift, after I have invited them, fed them, and given them cake and ice cream?  Why?  I just don't get this tradition.  Seems to me that the party kind of IS the gift, right?  I mean, I just paid $300 for all of those little ingrates to get into Pump it up, and play on inflatables for two hours straight, $100 for pizza, and $60 for a giant cake to feed them all.  Really?  I have to give you all a bag full of 'goodies' (aka crap) that you are going to touch for the amount of time it takes for the car ride home, leave it in the car, only for  your parents to toss out the next time they clean out the car?  But I digress....)  But Pinterest has all of these ideas on there that make me feel like I am such a loser mom.  For example....

Individually wrapped crayons.  (pause for a withering stare.)  Come.  On.  WHO has time to do this for every crayon, for every bundle, for every kid?  I will just leave this at that.

Do you know how expensive this would be??  Who can afford to do this?? And if you can, don't tell me.  I don't want to know.

Now this one, I am shamefully going to admit, I tried to do this for my son.  I went to the store, and guess what it was going to cost to make one of these for every student in his class. Math lesson everyone, gather round.

 A roll of Rolos is about a dollar.  Each bundle needs three.  There were 23 students in his class last year. How much does momma need in order to make these for her precious?

Answer: $66!!!!  For CANDY!  So even if I would have done one stick of Dynamite for each student, it would have been $23.  So I went with Mentos.  They were much cheaper.  Then there is the message.  I was making these pretty close to after Sandy Hook happened.  So I didn't think 'Bomb' would be a good word to use for the message.  I changed it to "You are a blast to have as a friend".  Better, right?  Oh, and let me also say, it took me 3 HOURS to make and write the message and tape it all together.  AND I had to do all of this AFTER my littles went to bed.  What kind of crack was I on, you ask?  Well, we were getting ready to move, and I was having serious mommy guilt for what I was going to put my son through.  So I thought I would do something nice for him.  Now I will say, he really did love and appreciate it, but I will probably never ever do something like this again.  Probably.

 I don't know, mommy guilt will make you do a lot of things.  Including Pinterest.

The 7 phases of me having a party

We are right in the middle of getting ready to have a big housewarming party at our new digs tomorrow. I have learned something about myself.  I go through the same 7 phases every time I host something at my house.  Every time. 

Phase one: Excitement, and grand plans:
So I have decided to host a party!  That is wonderful!  Who doesn't enjoy time with friends and hearing their house filled with laughter and the sound of ice tinkling in glasses. The first thing I do is make a list of who all I want to come.  This is not super easy, because I have a terrible memory and always seem to forget someone.  Then I get invitaitions, because I am old school like that, and fill them out right away, address them, and stick the stamps on them.  Then sit them on the console table by the door, where they sit for another few weeks, because I never can seem to remember to actually take them out to the mailbox. Then it is Pinterest time! I hit up Pinterest for some ideas that will absolutely never come to fruition.  This party's grand idea was to make a giant photo booth out of cardboard boxes.  (Never. Gonna. Happen)

Phase two: Feeling organized, one week before the party
So party date is set, finally mailed invites, and now I am gong to try to conquer cleaning this house without killing myself.  So I make a plan to clean the house a little bit each day.  This is a great idea, unless you have kids.  I clean the bathroom, then Your Royal Highness who has the aim of a 95 year old blind guy, helps me break in the bathroom for that not too clean feeling.  Then Little man has a 15 minute splash fest during bath time, and Thumbellina sneeks into the bathroom to "wash her hands' with the toothpaste.   I clean the living room, and literally 20 minutes later, puzzels are strewn about the floor like snow, and Your royal highness sets his heavily iced drink right on the table.  Overnight. So there is a nice giant ring and puddle around the cup right in the ding dang middle of the table.  Candy wrappers from who knows who are all over the floor (it may or may not have been me), and homework papers are under the couch now.  Dog hair is replaced as soon as it is swept up.  Seeing as I can only clean when the children are asleep, most of my work is undone, and cannot be done again until the following sleep time.  So we are looking at 48 hours before the party, and most of my work has to be redone again. 

Phase three: Panic (or as the Admiral refers to it, "the witchy" phase)
I have 48 hours until the party.  I have to re-clean my entire house.  I have to make food.  No one has really RSVP'd (just so you know, this is a HUGE pet peeve of mine.  Just say yes or no!  I sent my email address, you don't even have to call me!) so I don't entirely know how much food to make (and also just so you know, I come from a long line of people in my family where if you don't have a lot of leftovers after a party, you didn't make enough food.)  I don't know what I am going to wear, and I don't have time to go and get something new!  None of my clothes fit me anymore, I have lost a bunch of weight on Weight Watchers, and I have nothing that fits! (Before that, the panic was I was too fat for all of my clothes and I have nothing to wear.)  My kids all need baths, and the dog needs washed.  I need to get going making that photo booth or it isn't going to happen!  I don't' think I am going to have enough beer!  What if I can't get the house cleaned in time?  What if no one comes?  I wanted to paint the entire house and now I don't have time to do that!   What are people going to think????  I take most of this anxiety out on anyone in my family who tries to talk to me or add things to my to do list. "What?? You need me to make you lunch for school today?  I don't have time for this nonsense!!"  "What do you mean you there are no clean socks??  You people are so freakin needy!  Socks, food, water...when does it end with you people?!?!"

This was the photo booth idea.  Who was going to run it?  Me?

Phase four: Feelings of inadequacy, and regret, night before the party
Food is made and ready to go, House is getting clean, but my grand ideas did not come to fruition.  Photo booth did not get made.  Party favors for guests did not get made.  Straws with little mustaches taped onto them for people to use did not get made.  House did not get painted.  Pictures did not get bought and hung on the walls.  Outfit did not get bought.  How did I not get all of this done?  What have I been doing this whole time??  (Oh right, raising a family).  I just shouldn't have parties. Why do I put myself through this??  I am never having a party again!  Ever!

Phase five: Anxiety, the hour before the party
Maybe I have time to just throw on a quick coat of paint to the bathroom?  Just the bathroom!  I swear!  No?  How about the photo booth?  I could whip one up really fast.  Oh crap, no I can't, I have to go and re-clean the bathroom for the 80th time....

Phase six: Elation, the party is here
People start showing up and bringing food and beer and wine and desserts and conversation.  People are entertaining my kids so I can have a moment to socialize with someone whose vocabulary is larger than 100 words.  Everyone is commenting on how great the house is.  I am in heaven!  I love this!  So much good food!  I love these people!  I am so glad all of them came, and that I made extra food just in case!  "Oh this outfit?  I know I have lost some weight, I need new clothes.  Thanks for noticing how much looser my clothes are, and telling me how skinny I am!"

Phase seven: Amnesia, after that party
That was so much fun!  I had such a great time!  How nice to have everyone here, and the kids are exhausted from playing with everyone.  They are so tired they went right to sleep without one person out of bed.  My house is so clean I won't have to clean it for a week, except for the party trash.  But my family and friends are so awesome, they helped clean up after the party, so I am all done already!  You know what, we should really do this more often Admiral.  What do you mean I have lost my mind?

Cost-freakin-co

So tonight I have to go to Satan's playground.  Costco. 

Now don't get me wrong, the benefits far outweigh the problems, but I just HATE going.  You have no idea how much I loathe this trip.  If I could do it alone, that would be great.  But I can't.  I have to take all of God's children, plus the Admiral.  Why you may ask?  I will tell you.  Because I am short and have no muscles to speak of.  Plus we get two carts full of crap, and I just cannot pull two whole carts of crap by myself.  It is heavy crap, and I need the Admiral.  Sometimes if he is working, I will have to make the trip with the littles and your royal highness, but this is equally not fun, because he does nothing but complain about how long it is taking and how heavy the cart is.  I try to pacify him with samples, but with Little Man having umpteen thousand allergies to food,  he can't have most of them, and so he throws a fit because who in their right mind would rather have a box of raisins from the diaper bag over a cookie from a nice lady in a white hat and plastic gloves? 

Number two reason I hate Costco, lolly-gaggers, rubberneckers, browsers and isle-cloggers. I get it people, there is a lot to see and it can be hard to choose.  But just as in golf, rate of play baby!!!  Let faster shoppers go around you!  Be aware of people like me, who are pulling a cargo train of carts behind them with my whole family, most of whom want to go home ASAP.  I know what I need, I know where to find it, and I need to get OUT of there.  I do not want to be held up because an isle -clogger is looking at what package of giant syrup she wants.  My twins are beating each other with bread, my little man is eating peaches out of the cart and dripping juice down his chin, and your royal highness is groaning and trying to jump on the cart and add to the already hundreds of pounds I am pushing around every square inch of that place because "his feet hurt so bad".  This is the same kid who was running around minutes ago. 

Number three reason I hate Costco, the layout.  WTH Costco?  Why would you scatter the food all over the store mixed in with other things that I don't need?  I know you think you are marketing, but you aren't.  Who do you think you are, Target??  You are not sir, you are not.  Don't even try.  And quite putting the toys so close to the freaking granola bars!  I already have to fight your royal highness about videos and video games we pass right when we walk in, not to mention the drooling of the admiral over the large TV's that are at the enterance.  But really, Toys?  And what moron thought it was a good idea to put the diapers WAAAAAAY the heck back in the back of the store at the far left corner, where there is a giant bottleneck?  Do you realize that those are the reason MOST people go to Costco in the first place? Cheaper diapers?  So yes, let's make tired, sleep deprived mothers walk the farthest for the things they need, and just to make sure they don't miss a square inch, let's put the formula way the hell in the front.  

Mostly, I hate Costco, because everything I have to pack in my car is loose, and that is so freakng annoying to have to make 25,000 trips back and forth from the car with heavy boxes and bags.  Thank you, for making what was already an exhausting trip, into a more exhausting one. I don't need to exersice at all this week because I just burned 3000 calories on the GROCERY. Not to mention that I have to go over TWO sets of railroad tracks, so all of that loose stuff is bounced around, so SOMETHING is going to break loose (talking about you blueberries!)  And the other thing is, shopping at that store, size is relative to where you are.  So because everything is big, nothing looks big.  When I am at the store, a big bag of limes looks reasonable.  However when I get it home, I think to myself, "What the heck am I supposed to do with all of these limes??"  So often, I over purchase, or make pie.  Neither is really a good thing.

But like I said, the benefits outweigh the problems.  It is much cheaper to buy the bulk of my groceries  there, than to buy everything at the regular supermarket.  So until I can get a giant box of wipes at Kroger for $19, Costco it is.  But I don't have to like it.

On Target

This weekend I was able to do the thing that I love to do the most.  For an entire hour and a half, I wandered aimlessly around Target.  It was the most magical time of the whole week.  Oh, don't let me forget to add, I wandered around Target.....alone!  It was amazing.  After that, the grass was greener, the sky was bluer, the Buckeys had a blowout of a game, and I know it is all because I was able to go to Target by myself.


You may be thinking to yourself, "Why Target?  What is so great about Target?"  and to you I say, "What isn't great about Target!?!?  They have EVERYTHING and things what you didn't even know you needed!  It is clean, and bright, and colorful.  They have everything from wine, to yoga pants, to kitchen gadgets.  They have snacks, really cute kids clothes, and wine.  They have all of the things that make me happy, like shoes, and books, and chocolate, and brownie mix, and wine!  Did I mention they have wine?  Well they DO!  A whole isle of it!  And better yet, they have it in BOXES, so there isn't that worry of breaking glass if the kids mess with it.  And it has a TAP on it, so you can just pour as much as you want, and it won't turn into vinegar if you are too tired to finish it off. (or pass out, which ever comes first.)

 I see other moms there too, and you can tell the ones that are there alone, without kids, for the first time in a long time, because they just have this certain smile on their face, and they avoid any isles with children in them.  And when we pass each other we grin, and nod our heads, and she knows you are kid free right now too because you have the same look you face.

I will say the only downfall when it comes to Target, is that their marketing is way too good.  I went in for dog food, and came out with dog food, dog treats, coffee creamer (they had  Salty Caramel Mocha!  Costco doesn't have that!!  What a magical place!  I mean salty caramel mocha!!), caramel candy (because I decided that now was a good time to make caramel apples, WTH Target?? Why do you need to give me messages like that?), socks, and a deck of football shaped playing cards.  Some of the other things that almost went into my cart, but I restrained myself, were coasters for your wine glass that double as a tag for the stem that says, "I will be right back, don't throw this away" (Oh. My. Gosh!), a ghost themed dog collar (because who doesn't need that??) , a red velvet cake pop kit for halloween (so it looked like you were biting into a bloody eyeball!!  Adorable!), more yoga pants, snacks of various flavors, some really sweet shoes, little Halloween headbands for the girls, ghost marshmallows, Little People Snow White and the Seven dwarfs  dwarves little people (seems redundant) figures, and duck tape (it looked like mummy wrapping!!).  I always tell The Admiral that there is a $50 cover charge for Target, you have to spend that much or you can't shop there.  He rolls his eyes and looks balefully at me.  But the reality is, they just have really cool stuff, and it all looks awesome, and I am a consumer, and therefore must consume.  I justify it by the fact that I have a Redcard, so I automatically get 5% off anything I purchase, and there is no interest because it is a checkcard! 


But that is not all that Target has to offer!  There is a Starbucks right inside!  So not only can I shop for things I didn't even know I needed, I can do it with a pumpkin spice latte, or peppermint mocha in my hand people!  And if I am doing this sans family, it is all that much more luxurious!  I can browse, and have a thought in my head that is not interrupted by someone needing a bathroom break, or moaning about how much they need that Lego set, or Nerf gun, or Thomas the freaking Tank Engine, or Disney Princess doll, or trying to make a break for it and running up and down the isles.  I can look at what I want to look at.  Like stuff to organize closets that I will never organize (but I might one day!!), or tablecloths that I will never use because the littles will pull them off the table including the dinner that was set on it.  I can stroll leisurely without the Admiral groaning and looking at his watch and murmuring "Are we about done?  You ready to go?  I am hungry, we need to go get something to eat."

Shopping alone at Target may not sound all that great to some of you, but for me, it is just about the biggest treat this mom could get.  And it wasn't even my birthday!

Ode to yoga pants

The Admiral calls what I wear daily my uniform.  Yoga pants, t-shirt (with usually various levels of spit-up, snot, or drool accumulated on it by about 9am), socks with holes in the toe (I think to buy the kids socks, but do I think to buy ME socks?  No.), and ponytail.  Thank God the man actually loves me, because I don't know anyone else that could find that attractive enough to have 4 kids with, but here we are.

Yoga pants are probably the most wonderful creation in the world.  They are stretchy.  They are soft.  They do not cut into your stomach when you have to bend over to do sidewalk chalk for 20 minutes at a time.  They ebb and flow as your hormones do.  Fat day? Yoga pants understand.  Skinny day?  Yoga pants think you look amazing, look how they hang off of your hips so seductivly.  Lost a little weight lately, look how cute you look with them rolled down a bit.  Gain a little weight, yoga pants get it, no one is perfect.  Yoga pants are there for you. 

And at the end of the day, who is there for you then, when yoga pants are ready to be thrown into the washer?  Who is ready to be tagged in?  It's equally amazing cousin, pajama bottoms.  Pajama bottoms do the same job as yoga pants, with the added benefit of cute charactors on it.  Just to be a little cheeky.  Yes, that is cookie monster on my butt, how cute am I?  (and how ironic, because after the kids go to bed, I turn INTO cookie monster on the couch.) And sometimes if you are lucky enough to have them, they are a little fuzzy, and super super soft.  Like sleeping on little baby chicks, without the gory detail of squishing them, and blood and feathers all over the bed.  Sweet sweet sleep isn't that far away when pajama bottoms are in your corner. 

I know that it may not be the most attractive attire that I own.  I know that it may not be the most flattering, but you know, in this season of my life, with creature comforts few and far between, when I am taking prison showers, and skip shaving my legs for the umpteenth time, and when I am at maximum capacity for mucus, poop, and vomit... yoga pants and pajama bottoms are there for me.  Unlike you, traitorous jeans, who shrink at a moment's notice and you khaki pants who can't deal with cheeto fingers.  Yoga pants do this with grace and forgiveness. 

Thank you yoga pants. 

Thor, the dog of Thunder

Hiding from a thunderstorm

My dog is completely worthless.  I am not ashamed to say it.  I am really not.  He just is.  It is not, however, due to any fault of his own.  It is our fault, the Admiral's and I.  We broke him.  If dogs had psychiatrists, he would be on the couch. 

We really probably should not have had kids, as badly as we messed up the first living creature we were entrusted with. 

Back at the tender age of 26, my husband and I were living in a really nice one bedroom apartment.  This apartment did not take animals, and we had discussed many times about wanting a dog.  So when our lease was up, we found another, equally nice apartment, acutally a townhouse (yes, I felt a little like Barbie.  Dream come true baby! Living in a townhouse, now all I needed was a string to pull up an elevator, and a corvette), and we got serious about this whole dog thing.  This was a huge commitment for he and I, so we did not take this lightly. We talked about the kind of Dog we wanted, and both of us decided that we wanted a Husky. 

As luck would have it, a co-worker of my husband's told him that he had just surrendered a Husky, pure bred, to the Humane Society a couple of days before.  So on Saturday morning, bright and early, we trekked down to the local humane society to get it.  We talked to one of the workers there who told us that unfortunatly, even though we knew the person who surrendered the Husky, they hold all new dogs for a week to make sure that they don't have any diseases, and even then, if we were not there when the dog went out on the floor, someone else could adopt him, and she was not able to let us know right when the dog went out, because she didn't know and it may be when she wasn't there.  (bucket full of help, this one).  We were so dissappointed. 

I love dogs and puppies, so I said to the Admiral, "Do you want to at least go back and look?  There may be something there." 

"Why not, we are here." 

We walked into the room where all of the dogs were, and right in the front, in a glass atrium, there was the cutest little teddy bear of a puppy.  Husky-who???  That husky was never to be ours, because immediatly when we went up to this puppy, he shook his little stuffed toy so hard he fell on his butt, stealing our little pea-pickin heart! 

The name on the window was "Thor".  We adopted him right then, and kept the name. 

He even looks like he needs a therapist in this picture

Now, I have TONS of puppy pictures, but this was before digital cameras were really popular, so I don't have any pics on my computer of him.

So how have we completely messed up this dog, you ask?  Well, he was a pretty brave puppy. Nothing seemed to rattle him.  So on July 4th, when he was about 7 months old, we decided it would be fun to take him with us to see the fireworks.  (Brillant right??)  We managed to get seats really close to where they were going to be setting them off.  (Even more brillant, aren't you glad we procreated?)  We spent the better part of the evening hanging out, with people petting our well behaved dog, and talking to friends.  We got our blanket all set up, and settled in to watch as it got dark. 

As soon as the first firework shot off, I knew we were in serious trouble.  He literally jumped up and threw himself off of the blanket, and pulled as hard as he could on the leash.  I smelled the nasty smell of poo and looked at the blanket, he had literally had the schmidt scared out of him.

I get up, realizing my precious boy was in distress, and let him lead me.  He was pulling so hard he was about to break his neck and my hand.  The Admiral shouted, "You take him to the van, I will get the stuff", as I ran (and dear hearts, I do NOT run.  Ever.  At all.)  as he pulled me, and I tried to lead him to the car.  I was really hauling butt now, running faster than I had or will ever run again, and he was still about to pull me off my feet. 

I get back to the car, open the hatch, and throw him in.  The Admiral catches up with us and gets in the car. 

"Guess that was a bad idea."  Umm, yeah.  It was. 

no man in a dress with a knife will sneak up on me!

We get him home, and give him a bath, (I will spare you the details of why, just refer to the earlier comment about his reaction to fear), and after it was done, we sat on the couch and looked at him.  He looked as though he had PTSD.  He was jittery, jumpy, neurotic and not happy at all. 
We knew then, that we no longer had the same dog we had brought home.  We had broken him.  His psyche was cracked, and it was our fault. 

To this day any kind of noise gets him all jumpy, and he growls this growl that would be comical if we didn't know it was because we broke him. (What am I talking about?  It is still comical. He sounds like a monkey, "Oooo, Oooo" What dog sounds like that??? ) He does not act like normal dogs either.  He gives us these looks like he is just tolerating us, and that if he had his way we would be eating kibble and he would be eating the meatloaf.  When I say this, I do not mean just looking at us.  I am taking looking at us as if he were biding his time until he can make his move.  Like this:

Just you wait.  Your kingdom will be mine.

(and yes, those are my Corgi legs in the background).  But all in all, he is worthless.  He is blind now from cataracts, so he can't see to even pick up food off of the floor well, and with three toddlers we have a LOT of food on the floor.  He is deaf,though I think he is faking it so he doesn't have to do what he is told. because miraculously he will hear "Treat" or "Walk" and he is all of a sudden the picture of youth.  He sleeps most of the time, and granted, he will be 13 in December, but he could at least sleep in the same room as the family, and do his damn job of being 'mans best friend', be just goes off and sleeps somewhere alone.  (Probably because little man won't stop trying to ride him like a horse, or touch his penis, I get the draw Little Man, his penis is very fluffy but leave it be.)  He eats diapers out of the diaper pail (GROSS!!) , drinks from the toilet, drools on the wood floor, and sheds like you would not believe,  I could have knitted ten dogs from the amount of hair I have swept up in the last two years.  (If I cared to and if I could knit).  And his fetish for "burying his food" in the corners of the house has gotten out of control.  If this dog was a person, he would be a hoarder. 

He is supposed to stay off of the couch.  As you can see he also obeys well.

But he is ours.  And our kids adore him.  And one day he is going to pass on, and it is going to devastate this family like you would not believe.  My oldest son grieved for weeks over the death of our guinea pig that he had absolutely nothing to do with and never took care of so it usually fell to me (He actually asked me what we were going to do about it when we moved.  Like I was going to exhume the body and take it with us!).  So what is he going to do when this family pet passes of whom he has walked everyday, cleaned up poo, and fed for the last few years?  I shudder to think of it.

Until then, I have Thor's issues to deal with.  And though he has his moments, he is mostly a good dog.  When he isn't barking at nothing.  Or stealing the babies' food.  Or eating off of the counter.  Or when I have to  clean up a diaper that he shredded to pieces so he could eat the contents of it (GROSS). Or digging through the garbage.  Or staring at me like he wants stage a coup and take over the world.  Other than that, yep.  He is ok.

Domestic Enemies of the Home Daycare mom

I love the blog Rants From Mommyland.  It has to be my absolute favorite.  I started reading it (Thank you Jen Hatmaker for mentioning it in YOUR blog), and it made me laugh, and finally helped me to  find the funny in this day to day mom stuff.  They have a series called, "The Domestic Enemies", and they have all kinds of different types of moms represented, Military moms, single moms, premie moms, all kinds.

I read the "Domestic Enemies of the mom of multiples, and giggled a lot, because as a mom of twins,  they nailed on the head.   I read the "Domestic Enemies of the mom of a Large Family", and having four kids, again, nailed it.  But I believe my situation has it's own set of challenges.   I felt a little left out,  because they did not have one that particularly catered to my situation.  I am a stay at home mom who also happens to run a home daycare.  In and of itself, SAHM's have a tough life.  I don't care how many kids you have.  Big or small families, each have it's own set of personal challenges.  So I give you, "Domestic Enemies of the Home Daycare Mom"

1. School functions: 

My oldest son is in elementary school, and is in the fifth grade.  Could there be any more opportunities for me to feel like a loser mom?  I mean, there are constant emails coming to me saying " Opportunity to volunteer in your child's room"
"Class party, volunteers needed"
"Volunteers needed for reading"
Yeah, like me walking in with 5 toddlers in tow is going to go over well.  I can see it now, 'Ok Johnny, read the first word to me.  Hold on a second, no no, don't pull the pictures off of the walls Little Man, sit down.  Quit pouring your juice on your sister's head.  Ok Johnny let's... wait a minute I need to change this toddler here. He pooped."  The same would go with class parties.  Not only would you have 25 school age kids going nuts with the sugar rush from the millions of cupcakes and sugary treats that everyone just has to send in for parties (what is wrong with fruit people?  Really? Yes, I am THAT mom.  Suck it.), but then I would have 5 sugared up LOUD toddlers running, screeching, tearing pictures off the walls, and dumping anything off of shelves that they could get their hands on. 

2. Doctor appointments:
Yes I understand the importance of doctor appointments for well child check ups.  But really doctors offices?  Can we not offer some after hours appointments at least one or two days a week?  No parent in their right mind is going to want me to take their kids into that petri dish just so Little Man can get the once over, and a "come back in a couple of months for his flu shot."  Lord knows what kind of scurvy my kids would pick up when I am outnumbered 5 to 1, and can't be constantly on point to keep Thumbellina and toddler #2 from licking the floor.

3. Homework.
As I have mentioned before, my oldest son has ADHD.  So his medicine is good for about 10 hours.  He takes it upon waking, which is about 7am, and then is good for school all day.  After which he gets saddled with at least an hour's worth of homework per night which also requires the desired focus that the medicine gives him.  However, when he gets home, we are on  a ticking time bomb.  Those meds wear off at about 6pm, and he doesn't get home until 4.  So homework HAS to be done right after he gets home, or we have no focus.  And trust me, trying to get my ADHD kid to do homework off meds is not the happy fun time you would think it is.  Now, he mostly can do these things by himself, and then I just check it for mistakes later, but sometimes, and all too often for my taste, he needs help.  Try focusing on helping him with math that I wasn't able to do when I was in 5th grade, let alone with 5 toddlers running around making noise at 50 decibels, for a child that doesn't want to do this in the first place and just wants to run off to play Minecraft all night.  I can't tell you how tempting it is to just say, "Go build your castle honey, math is overrated anyway."

4. Teacher Work Days
I decided before I started doing my home daycare, that I would only watch teacher's kids.  This way, when my son is off of school, we have the day off together.  This works awesome for summers, holidays and spring break.  This does NOT work out for days that teachers have to work too.  Not only do I have to run my daycare, but then I have the regular responsibilities of being a mom to a 10 year old too, with him running in and out of the house during nap, (SLAMMING THE FREAKING DOOR), and wanting sleepovers!  "I am sorry that I need to sleep tonight and do not want to feel like I need to make pancakes for you and your friends in the morning because you don't have school tomorrow.  I need to make money so you can have shoes."  But does the 10 year old appreciate this?  Hells to the no he doesn't.

5. Getting sick
Do you know who takes over for me when I am sick?  Nobody.  So when I get sick, it not only affects my job, it affects the job of the people I work for, and all of the people they work for!  So when I am sick enough to call off, we are talking I am on death's door. This is also true for when my kids are sick.  So if they just have little colds, I have to deal with the regular day to day stuff, and my poor little whiney sick child.

So there you have it.  I often dream about a job where I get regular breaks, and don't have to wait to pee until they are all strapped into a high chairs so that they cannot kill themselves because I am not in the room with them, and can go for at least half a day without someone wiping their nose on my shirt, or drooling on my shoulder, and can have personal time off WITH pay and paid vacations.....wait, what was my point?